I am currently reading a book with a few other friends, and I came across a sentence that gave me some insight into the person that I have become. The sentence reads, “People don’t want to be told that their experiences were wrong…” This sentence struck a chord with me, and I started to see that many of my decisions were based on fear of being wrong.
In my past I have stayed away from relationships that might not work out, I tried not to involve myself in activities that people would frown upon, or make a decision that would reflect negatively on me. Instead I have sought after safe, secure, and rational decision making. Some people live with no regrets, but I tried to live with no wrong experiences.
The problem with that mentality is it can be paralyzing state of mind to live in. No human being can live like that. I have a long list of wrongs, and experiences that I do regret. By I am now mature enough in my own identity to see how those experiences have shaped me. It’s like a tattoo that you got when you were 17, it wasn’t wrong to get that tattoo (unless it was a snake on your neck), but that tattoo is a reflection of who you were in that moment of your life. My hope is to change my mentality from making decisions out of fear, to making decisions out of convictions, passions, and love.
When your passions drive your decision making, your life will feel less safe, and more alive. Your passions will compel you to take risks, be bold, and bring change. I encourage you to experience more and question less. Don’t fear failure, but rather fear mediocrity.